This time last year, summer was spent inside. Yes, some still ventured like there was not a global pandemic outside. But, me, myself, and I stayed safe and erred on the side of caution for my health and my family’s health.
But ya girl is vaxxed and READY FOR SUMMER. To specify, a warm, Christian grown lady summer. I’m not going crazy but I really want to do stuff. So, here is my list for Summer 2021.
Outdoor Activity (i.e. a hike, go to the park, etc.)
Do something daring *Bonus*
A spa day
Brunch with a friend(s)
A fun redemption birthday celebration (June 28th baby!!)
I am learning more each day about taking a step back. It does not mean you are incompetent but are aware of your boundaries. As a reformed perfectionist and people-pleaser, I am getting better in taking an intentional step back. I cannot give what I do not have. I need to recharge, rest, and have a moment of silence/solitude. It’s a form of self-care that I am tapping into.
So to start 2020, I am taking a step back. I am taking a little sabbatical till March to rest from blogging and work on life. Yours truly needs self-care. I want to focus on other things in my life.
Don’t worry. I have wonderful ideas for 2020. I want to continue to grow but also need to take a step back.
Keep reading and hold on. I will be back again. Love you all Bliss Fam.
Thrive each day of your life. Be a better version of you. It does not need to be grand. Make an intentional, daily decision to not stay the same. Transform! Be magnetic and attract the good and repel the bad. Yesterday is the past. Today is the present. What are you waiting for?
I can relate to this. I feel a prickle of fear and inadequacy almost every day. I can stress over all my inadequacies all day but what will that do? Know you that you are one person. You are a human being. Do the best you can. Your best is your best. If anyone has a problem, then tough…you have done with you can.
We know our family and friends mean well but really!?! If we needed your help and guidance, we would ask. Singlehood is not a sad place if you don’t wallow waiting your soulmate. I live a wonderful fulfilling life as a single person. God’s providence has not lessened or changed because it’s just me.
I asked some of my peers the words/phrases they tire of hearing:
Oh, I’m sorry.
*Asks my age*… You should be married.
You know that’s usually when God brings the right buy along
It will happen when you least expect it
Why aren’t you married?
You’ve got plenty of time
That’s a shame. You’re such a lovely girl
You’re not getting any younger. If you wait too long you won’t be able to have kids.
You’ll find the right one and just know
God has His plan for you, just wait it out
If you don’t settle, you’ll never have kids
Your standards are too high.
A degree is nice but it can’t love you back.
Your deliveryof constant criticism of my relationship status is discouraging and flat out annoying (sorry not sorry). Family and Friends, like I said we know you mean well. If we wanted someone, we would say something. Instead of pitying and criticizing your single peeps, why not ask us about:
What are you up these days?
What are your goals?
What is new in your life?
Single people have lives. We are interesting too. We just want you to love and RESPECT where we are. That is all.
Great, inspirational words from CNN International news anchor, Zain Asher. Ya’ll the struggle is real but believe in your abilities. Yes, you will bumble and struggle but never give up on what you want. Work hard for what you want. Your circumstances do not define you. AND fun fact: her brother is actor, Chiwetel Ejiofor (Google Him). Some encouragement to give you life!!