Blissful Things I Can’t Live Without

There are things that I need in my daily life. These things are the gate to who I am. They make me Bianca. They make me happy.

  1. My glasses. I am as blind as bat…so they are the first things I reach for.
  2. Jesus. The foundation I live by. There is no one better. He does not fail me. He is the hope that makes life worth living.
  3. My Family. The people who know me better than I know myself. We are truly a unit and I love them very much.
  4. My phone. It’s sad but true. I need my phone to function whether it be social media, calling home, texting, keeping up with my calendar, etc.
  5. My creativity. I love painting. It is my creative escape. Whether it be watercolor, acrylic, homebound or going to a painting place, I love expressing myself.
  6. My education. Knowledge is power. My parents were about Jesus and education. It did not matter that I was female. It mattered what was in my mind.
  7. Peace of Mind. God gives me the peace that surpasses all understanding. I do not want to give up my peace for anyone or anything that threatens it.




TedTalk Thursday: Body Confidence

Two Words: Ashley Graham.

I grew up watching America’s Next Top Model and Project Runway. I adore the fashion world. My dream is to walk and buy things from Rodeo Drive (LA) and Fashion Ave, (NYC), to attend Fashion Week, and meet Tim Gunn (Project Runway) in NYC or anywhere.

Society likes to tell women how to look and how to be like. It’s like you have be size of a lollipop stick to be beautiful. I believe every person on Earth is fearfully and wonderfully made. God made us different for a reason. Your body is a beautiful temple because God said so.

Ashley Graham is a beautiful model…period. She is confident and chooses to embrace the skin she is in.  I encourage you with her story and her words of encouragement.




Blissful Lesson: Stronger Than You Think

You are stronger than you think.

The valley may seem impossible to climb.

But you have managed to keep climbing.

People may seem in awe but you knew the struggle it took.

Know that God gives unfathomable courage and strength.

With God all things are possible.

The valley you climb gets higher until you reach the top

You are on the top looking at the view.

What seemed impossible is possible.

You grow from soil of impossibility.

You breathe a sight of relief.

You have a heart of thankfulness.

You are stronger than you think.




The Strength of His Fresh Air

Have you ever had moments where you think: How did I do that? How did I survive that?

I have been asking myself that question lately. My health has been less than perfect for about a month (I am doing better). I had to fight, pray, and plead with my body to wake up and function.  I spent nearly a month with my body acting out and not cooperating me. And yet, God gave me the ability and will to get up, eat, go to school, intern, and go to church. I was negotiating and praying to God “Even if I function at 50%, please give me the strength to do it.” He would do it (and then some).  I did not realize how sick I was until my family came down from Georgia for 4th of July weekend; my mom and sister were like “You have been living like this!?! How?” I really could not answer…I am still trying to piece the puzzle together (but I will not have it all figured out).

Jesus supplies ALL our needs. With each day, He provides the means and ways to live. He gives you exactly what you need without delay. He does not lack anything. He gives freely, BUT He gives at His discretion and timing.

Jesus GAVE His ALL. PERIOD. And He will continue to do His ALL for you and me. Savor in the fact that God loves you and wants His best for you. Trust it. Believe it. Live it.

And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.-Philippians 4:19

 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?  Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?-Matthew 6:25-27

So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.-Matthew 6:31-34

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”–Matthew 11: 28-30




She’s Different

Her energy was a moxie.

She stood tall above the rest.

She’s unique.

She’s an anomaly.

Her magic was insurmountable.

Society wants to delegitimize her power but she stands tall.

Her magic shines.





Blissful Stress Relievers

Life gets very busy. It is not good for people to just work and pay taxes non-stop till you die. That would be a sad life. I have had to learn to de-stress and not let life get the best of me. Stress Relievers are tailored to help and to make life more interesting. I want to give you sobering ways to relax.

  1. Coloring Books. I know it sounds childish but they are quite the trend. I have too many coloring books. I love the ones with quotes and scripture. Just take 30 minutes or an hour to color.
  2. Paint Places. There are painting places where I live where you pay money for an instructor to teach you how to paint. My favorite place to go is Pinot’s Palette in Jacksonville, FL. They are wonderful people who are willing to help. It is BYOB. Whether it is a Friday night or a Tuesday afternoon, they offer great painting classes.
  3. A Bath. I love taking a soothing bath in silence. I love bath salts, bath fizzies, and aromatherapy soaps. I usually get them at Bath & Body Works, Marshall’s and TJmaxx.
  4.  Eat Comfort Food. Give me ice cream or just dessert that puts me in a happy place. Use discretion with the intake but it’s a thought.
  5. Sleep/Nap. Enough said. It’s a beautiful thing to lay down and unwind.
  6. Talk to someone. You can talk to someone who listens and helps you defuse the situation. I know great friends who have made my stress levels go down by their presence and advice.
  7. Listen to Music. It is great to have music that puts you in a mellow and calm state.
  8. Walk. It is good to walk around. Easier said than done but get some sun.

All in all, take care of yourself. Don’t forget to make yourself a priority. This is my blissful list. What is a way you destress?




TedTalk Thursday: Trust Your Struggle

Great, inspirational words from CNN International news anchor, Zain Asher. Ya’ll the struggle is real but believe in your abilities. Yes, you will bumble and struggle but never give up on what you want.  Work hard for what you want. Your circumstances do not define you. AND fun fact: her brother is actor, Chiwetel Ejiofor (Google Him). Some encouragement to give you life!!




Life As Adult Bianca

Do you remember as a teen fantasizing about how adult life would be? How you would eat whatever you want, go out whenever you want, act however you want? Drive, live on your own, pick your own cereal…

Life as an adult is nice but it comes with responsibility.  I am able to handle my adult life (knock on wood). But I did have to be patient in my teen/college years to reach that point. I find myself talking to teens about how to take their time and how adulthood is not some pleasure island.

Let me tell you my current adult life:

  1. School..and schoolwork
  2. Work
  3. Interning
  4. Bills, bills, bills
  5. Budgeting and Couponing
  6. Cleaning and Maintaining my living space
  7. Having fun because I have been indoors too much
  8. Going out to eat with friends on occasion.
  9. Fatigue and Sleepiness
  10. Wake Up and Do it Again

Don’t get me wrong, there are perks of adulthood. But 13-year-old Bianca with light in her eyes about adulthood freedom is very different. I would not change my transitions into adulthood for anything because I am a late bloomer. At 20, I could not handle half of things I handle now at 27.

So life is a process. Don’t rush the process into adulthood. Had I rushed, I would have been overwhelmed. Everyone is different. Everyone functions differently. It is important to maintain grit, discipline and hard work in the now . Don’t doubt your process. You will get where you need to be.




Relying On the His Breath of Fresh Air

Living and being independent can cause me to lose sight of relying on God.  The Great I Am requires obedience and reliance on His abilities alone. Easier said than done. My abilities are based on reliance on God, not my own human merit.

I am learning that I am not in control. It is savage to think I can save myself and function without God….because I can’t (and you can’t either). It takes daily death to self to attain more reliance on Him.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and shun evil. This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones.-Proverbs 3:5-8

I keep my eyes always on the Lord. With him at my right hand, I will not be shaken. In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps.-Proverbs 16:8-9

I lift up my eyes to the mountains—where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.-Psalm 121:1-2
Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.-Proverbs 19:21