A Blissful Word from Mama B!

It is not enough to say “I want to change XYZ. I need to get out.”

You have to do something…like actually act. If you keep complaining, then you will be like a dog chasing its tail. As a friend, I would remember giving the same advice over and over again (run myself into the ground) to friends who knew what they had to do. I also had to realize I can want change for someone else but if they do not take the steps, it is not my fault.

Don’t blame and complain if you refuse to change. 

It’s ok to be selfish and take care of yourself.  You are the only person living YOUR LIFE. No one has to live with the consequences but YOU.

Yes, change is hard. I am speaking to myself on this too. But is being in the same position worth it? Is that person really worth it? Is that situation worth the pain and hurt you feel?

Let the change crescendo and catapult into a better version of life.

Change it or live in it. That’s the choice you have to make.

Crescendo

Blissfully,

Bianca

A Blissful Tip

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The people you start with may not be the people you end with. Some people are meant to be in a season for a reason. It happens. Personally, a new season meant letting go of the people and things that do not fit or pose a threat to my personal change. It is hard but it is needed. Educate yourself of what you need to change. Your future self will thank you. What are the things you need to remove in your new season?

Educate

Blissfully,

Bianca

Monday Motivation

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Thrive each day of your life. Be a better version of you. It does not need to be grand. Make an intentional, daily decision to not stay the same. Transform! Be magnetic and attract the good and repel the bad. Yesterday is the past. Today is the present.  What are you waiting for?

Magnetic

Blissfully,

Bianca

Nostalgic Bliss: Law School Edition

My last semester of law school is HERE!! Here are my reflections of law school.

  1. Law school is a new environment not matter where you go so ADAPT to your surroundings.
  2. Not everyone who smiles at you is your buddy. It may sound crazy or mean but here me out. Some are after sabotage and manipulation to get the better grade. There are quality people  and mentors jpg_law_justice_003you will encounter who will bring out the best parts in you. I have met the best people who had my best interests at heart and who rooted for me (You know who you are). It is a small handful of people but it’s enough for me. Guard yourself.
  3. Do what works for you. Everyone is different. What works for you is FOR YOU!
  4. Tears are the steps to your growth. I have cried on a few occasions but I dusted myself off and kept going. My visceral fear and failure could not be permanent or I would come to my own ruin. The resilience makes you stronger so keep going.
  5. Breathe. It will all be worth it. The blood, sweat, tears, and lack of sleep will pay off when I walk across that stage to receive my diploma and when I get sworn in as a licensed attorney.

Visceral

Blissfully,

Bianca

Monday Motivation

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After 23 years of school, I am in my final semester of law school. My last first day of school EVER! Almost the end of an era and I am terrified. I am heading into classes, then Bar prep, taking the Bar (in February), finding employment, and living life as a 27. I am scared but ready for this life-changing season. I am really doing something brave. So if you are scared, be brave. It’s ok to have fear but don’t let it overtake you. Don’t sit in your fear. Take a leap of faith. Lurch into your success no matter the tribulations. Be brave; you will thank yourself in the future..

Lurch

Blissfully,

Bianca

Happy One Year!!

It started with many people saying I have encouraging words to uplift and my positivity is refreshing…but one person told me you should blog… “I would read your thoughts and words of encouragement.”

So on an August afternoon turned into asking general vague questions on Facebook about me starting a blog, researching the pros/cons and nuances of blogging, seeking advice from my circle. After contemplating, I answered the call.

Now a name…after word searches, asking people, and throwing out names…and a day to mull over my decision, Blissfully Bianca was born.

In this year as a blogger, I have seen my words have power. I have connected with beautiful people from around the country and around the world. I am still learning as I go but the best is yet to come. My year as a blogger has not been solitary  but a great community of friends.

Thank you all for viewing, liking, commenting, giving me feedback, and giving me a platform. Love you all!!

Solitary

Blissfully,

Bianca

Nostalgic Bliss

After high school comes college. College was another life changing phase. My grainy journey consisted the following: changed my major a few times, took time off, yet had great memories, and graduated. I would not change my journey for anything.

  1. Your foundation of faith is vital as you navigate freedom you have never experienced. I did not have my parents telling me to go to church, read my Bible, and be set apart. I had the choice to give up on Jesus but my dad always told me “You can never go wrong with serving God.” Something told me not to let Him go. Thankfully, I was involved in Christian groups and was involved in a local church. My campus pastor, Ken Jones & his wife, Janet Jones, played a great role in my spiritual growth.
  2. School> Boys. Sorry, not sorry. I went to school for degree. Granted I did want a boyfriend but marriage was waaayyyy down the road. I knew that I wanted a career and to be someone.
  3. If you don’t find your spouse by graduation, it is  not the end of the world. I remember the constant pressure of people telling me I met my spouse at this event, this spot, this campus, etc. I got annoyed because it was not happening to me. I was not going to graduate with a spouse. But then I realized that I was graduating with a degree..that is so much better than finding a spouse.
  4. Know what you want and don’t apologize to those who don’t apply themselves. There will be the lazy ones who will want to discourage you and bring you down to their level but stand your ground.
  5. Love what you do. 
  6. Ask help before its too late. It’s ok to be a beginner. Asking for help does not mean that you are weak. It just means you are willing to be better.
  7. Enjoy college.  It was so much fun and I would not trade my experience.

Grainy

Blissfully,

Bianca

Believe In Your Purpose

God is leading me…TO WHAT!?!

My biggest pet peeve is people who are willy-nilly who don’t have a plan, who choose to be lazy, or who just float hoping for an opportunity.

God is a God of ORDER, not disorder. He executes his plan in His timing. He is not messy but has purpose with each step.

Commit your way to the Lordtrust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn, your vindication like the noonday sun.-Psalm 37:5-6

The Lord makes firm the steps of the one who delights in him-Psalm 37:23

 

Call to Action:

  1. Pray for direction and guidance from the God of Order. God will give you the daily steps but you have to be obedient in those steps.
  2. Commit to something and stick with it. It will be hard but you have to fight and have grit. 
  3. Don’t play God. You will not know all the steps but some of the steps.

 

Finally, you may have the plan but God ultimately control the means and the ways. In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps.-Proverbs 16:9

Moral of the Story: Don’t be a willy-nilly. Be better. Do better. God believes in you and made you for a purpose. Live according to His purpose for your life.

Willy-nilly

Blissfully,

Bianca