Happy One Year!!

It started with many people saying I have encouraging words to uplift and my positivity is refreshing…but one person told me you should blog… “I would read your thoughts and words of encouragement.”

So on an August afternoon turned into asking general vague questions on Facebook about me starting a blog, researching the pros/cons and nuances of blogging, seeking advice from my circle. After contemplating, I answered the call.

Now a name…after word searches, asking people, and throwing out names…and a day to mull over my decision, Blissfully Bianca was born.

In this year as a blogger, I have seen my words have power. I have connected with beautiful people from around the country and around the world. I am still learning as I go but the best is yet to come. My year as a blogger has not been solitary  but a great community of friends.

Thank you all for viewing, liking, commenting, giving me feedback, and giving me a platform. Love you all!!

Solitary

Blissfully,

Bianca

Life As Adult Bianca

Do you remember as a teen fantasizing about how adult life would be? How you would eat whatever you want, go out whenever you want, act however you want? Drive, live on your own, pick your own cereal…

Life as an adult is nice but it comes with responsibility.  I am able to handle my adult life (knock on wood). But I did have to be patient in my teen/college years to reach that point. I find myself talking to teens about how to take their time and how adulthood is not some pleasure island.

Let me tell you my current adult life:

  1. School..and schoolwork
  2. Work
  3. Interning
  4. Bills, bills, bills
  5. Budgeting and Couponing
  6. Cleaning and Maintaining my living space
  7. Having fun because I have been indoors too much
  8. Going out to eat with friends on occasion.
  9. Fatigue and Sleepiness
  10. Wake Up and Do it Again

Don’t get me wrong, there are perks of adulthood. But 13-year-old Bianca with light in her eyes about adulthood freedom is very different. I would not change my transitions into adulthood for anything because I am a late bloomer. At 20, I could not handle half of things I handle now at 27.

So life is a process. Don’t rush the process into adulthood. Had I rushed, I would have been overwhelmed. Everyone is different. Everyone functions differently. It is important to maintain grit, discipline and hard work in the now . Don’t doubt your process. You will get where you need to be.

Grit

Blissfully,

Bianca

Blissful Lessons As Intern Bianca

My prayers were answered in May. I became a law clerk for a private firm in Jacksonville. In addition, I signed up to volunteer intern at Legal Aid. After a month as an intern, I thought I might share some lessons.

  1. Never underestimate your skills. I came in thinking I was going to do “legal work” because I thought that is why they wanted me. Then, the office manager said how I would be helping  with legal blogs and marketing tasks…WAIT WHAT!?! I was frustrated at first.  But I realized that in my interview, I said that I was a lifestyle blogger to stand out but who knew that my supervisor would find that as an asset. She published my legal blogs on the firm’s social media page so people are seeing my work. Alrighty!!
  2. Give your best work no matter what the task. So I did legal blogs my first few weeks and did some legal research for my supervisor’s website. But then I got a legal assignment. So the same time and effort I put into my blogs, I kept the same momentum in writing.
  3. Learn. Disclaimer **Just because you go to law school, it does not mean you are an expert in everything*** With my first legal assignment, I was learning as I went along. So you will always be learning on the job which is a good thing but that is a life thing. Since no one is perfect, we are all learning. You have to start from somewhere.
  4. Be flexible. Some days will be busy, some days will be slower but still put your best work and face forward.
  5. Get to know the people you work with.
  6. Have personality.  It is a balance. I am still learning that balance to be professional and not too sweet. That is why I suggest #5. Learn the dynamics before you “show” yourself. But always maintain politeness and curiosity..it never goes out of style.
  7. Try.

So this is life and lessons as an intern.

Blissfully,

Bianca

 

Love Beyond the Photos

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28 years ago, my parents were married at a church in Stamford, Connecticut. The picture above is my favorite picture of them. Two young people with a lifetime ahead. The bottom picture is just a picture that shows their essence overtime.

They never anticipated moving to a different state, never anticipated having a sickle cell child or a child with autism, never anticipated the obstacles ahead. But they knew that they wanted to face life together. They faced triumphs and trials through God’s guidance and providence.

They continue to last beyond their wedding photos. They continue to grow together, get on each other’s nerves, dream together, support each other, respect each other, and love each other.

My parents still have their moments where it seems like they are still dating and young again. It’s icky but cute.

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I want just that. A marriage that lasts beyond the engagement photos and wedding photos. A partnership. A best friend. A bae who will love me in spite of my faults. That is what I hope for.

Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad!

Blissfully,

Bianca

My Blissful, Sunny Birthday!!!

A sunny, new horizon has risen because God has granted me another year of life. It’s my Birthday!!!  I am officially 27 years old.

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It feels great and scary but God has fulfilled, continues to fulfill, and will fulfill His promises. 27 will be a life-changing year with graduation, bar prep, and who knows what is next. Thankful to still be here.

Never take a birthday for granted. Never take another day on Earth for granted. Each day is a sunny day when you open your eyes and you are still you, breathing, walking, and living.

Sunny

Blissfully,

Bianca

Life Before Future Lawyer Bianca

ПечатьFun Fact about me: I wanted to be a pharmacist but after Organic Chemistry, I realized that dream died. But prior to that realization, I had wanted to be lawyer since high school. My dad was against me being a lawyer because his perception of lawyers was “Lawyers lie and can’t be Christian” (weird but true).

My lawyer moment: I went to Haiti on a mission trip after the earthquake. A defining moment of the trip was when I encountered a young boy, about the age of twelve, who did not know how to write his own name. I do not think twice about writing my name because that is one of the first skills I learned in school. At that moment, I thought “How many more people in this world do not know how to write their own name?” I also wondered how many times illiterate people have been taken advantage of, due to a lack of knowledge of what has been written. When I wrote that twelve year old boy’s name on his nametag, he was elated to see his name in ink for the first time. This moment punctured my heart. It changed my outlook. I finally understood why my parents enforced education because there are people (like them) who did not have the same opportunities as me. I had a different worldview that day. From that moment forward, I realized that even the smallest thing, like one’s name, can make a difference and give a person more of an identity.

Since my biology degree was not going to happen, I knew wanted to make a difference, to reach people delegitimized by society. I took a career aptitude test and I lined up with “law-related fields” which brought me back to my original career choice: the law.

Then what happened next was a burning bush moment. After I had a meeting with a Career Services counselor, her secretary said, “A professor left some LSAT study materials and a book of law schools in the U.S.. Do you know anyone that would want them?” Yup…that was my sign. So that was the route I took.

My dad eventually had a change of heart. I changed my major to Political Science and started on the track to where I am now. I am in my last year of law school looking towards the future. I desire to be an immigration attorney, fighting for the people and kids like that young Haitian boy I encountered. I want to use my knowledge for good and for others.

So the moral of the story is: Defining moments can come from anywhere, including your past. Never give up. Keep growing.

Puncture

Blissfully,

Bianca

My Desires, His Order

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This may not seem like much but this was the hands of my Baptist Collegiate Ministry (BCM) team laying hands on my prayer requests. I was a different person in 2013. I was a Senior in college hoping to be a lawyer, wondering if I was good enough or plain crazy. My LSAT was low, rejection letters seemed to come more, and doubt set in. My sister was still living with Sickle Cell Anemia (no bone marrow transplant thoughts yet). Life was scary and uncertain. Yet in the mist of the doubt and uncertainty, my team rallied around me, traced their hands on my requests, and prayed for me.

Little did I know that my sister would have a successful bone marrow transplant a few years later

Little did I know I would be accepted to law school a year later

Little did I know that God was preparing the way for me to move to Jacksonville, Florida

Little did I know that God was doing immeasurably more than I could ask for

I just had to be patient. Even though I felt my path was out of order, God used my team and friends to pray for peace. God knew the order. He always knows the order.

I just had to pray and live by faith. My God is a God of order. All things work for His good.

Order

Blissfully,

Bianca

Who Is Bianca?

Hi Friends,

Don’t worry!! This is not a philosophy question, just a list of some facts about me.

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  1. I am a June baby…the 28th to be exact.
  2. I love painting.
  3. I am a big fan of Disney movies and James Bond movies
  4. My favorite colors are turquoise, mint green, yellow,  coral, pink..but I love to expand my horizons.
  5. I do not have a middle name.
  6. I collect mugs (all kinds from any place or whenever I visit a new place).
  7. Even though I reside in the South, I was born and raised in Stamford, Connecticut till I was 5.
  8. My cultural background is Haitian..and proud of it.
  9. I have really distinct, neat penmanship.
  10. I love doing crosswords and doing puzzles…”old person status”.

So this is ME!!..at least for the most part.

Blissfully,

Bianca

Summer Bucket List Life As Bianca

Hi Friends,

Summer is happening!! YAY!! It is my last summer as a student so I want to make it COUNT!

My Summer Bucket List:

  • Find a legal internship
  • Do pro-bono/volunteer work
  • Pass summer classes
  • Beach Day/Pool Day
  • Go to a Food Truck Event
  • Manicure/Pedicure Day
  • Buy a romper
  • Have a kick-but 27th birthday
  • Paint Day
  • Watch a Summer Movie
  • Try a new restaurant
  • Declutter my closet
  • Attend a cultural/artistic event
  • Have a Senior Photoshoot
  • Have lunch/coffee with someone I have not seen in a while
  • Watch Fireworks
  • Read Proverbs and Romans 

 

I encourage you to make summer list of things you want to do and experience. I made my list. I want to give you some advice on the process.

  1. Be practical. I will not have time to skydive this summer so yeah. But I plan things that I can do with the time I have.
  2. Mix it up. Include different activities or goals. You don’t have to be limited going out all the time. You can do stuff at home too.
  3. Go wild or go little on the list. Whether by quantity or quality of items, make your list for you.
  4. Get your family and friends involved. Why not have experiences with the people in your circle!?!
  5. Have fun!

So tell me what’s your summer bucket list.

Blissfully,

Bianca

The Adrift from Comfort

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The law school countdown is on for my December graduation. I reminisce on the past three years of my life. I left my comfortable life in Georgia for a new city chasing a dream. I set my life adrift with Christ as my anchor. I cast myself into the deep. My anchor never let me drift outside of God’s will. Though I strayed, I would find myself back to His direction. Sailing the seas, there were tides of difficulty, despair, and uncertainty but there were currents of joy, peace, friendship, and triumphs.  Adrift, to me, means letting go of human, tangible security and relying on God and self in the seas of life.

Adrift

Blissfully,

Bianca