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Blissful List of Keeping Mental Sanity At Work

If there is one thing the pandemic has taught me, it has taught me work is not sum total of my being. Work is something I do but I still need to be a person. I am more than my 8 hour work shift. But I can still be me even in my workday.

I have made boundaries to keep my mental sanity at work. I work in a field with intense deadlines and stress ( but isn’t that every job…). I also don’t work from home. It’s a lot that can be thrown at you. So keeping a level head is the game plan.

This is my list as a reference. I encourage you to try and cultivate healthy, sane moments in your workday. So here is my list:

  1. Get UP and OUT of your work space. I try after 45 minutes to an hour after working diligently to get up…whether to go to the bathroom, the break room, or get a snack. I sit for my job so it is good to work out the muscles.
  2. Honor your lunch break. The work is not going anywhere. My job (and most jobs) take that hour anyways. Thankfully, my office building has a guest area where I eat. It’s a change of scenery. I listen to a podcast or music or call my mom. I get a breather. It’s a time for me to recharge and that’s ok.
  3. Tea time. The mid-day slowdown is real. I make my tea (I buy it so it is mine alone) and I make it at 3 or before then to enjoy. It soothes me and also helps me to keep working. I get off work at 6PM so I will need a jump.
  4. Affirmations I Mediate On– The caring, type-A empath wants everything to be perfect but reality does not work that way. Sometimes I mess up or I do not finish all that I need to in a particular day. I am really hard on myself. Affirmations fight the negative. So what I say is: Bianca, you are one person. You can only do so much in 8 hours. You are human. You are learning.
  5. Working Music-Depending on the assignment I am working on, I listen to music to focus, to calm my spirits, and to add a little “fun” in my work.
  6. Talk to God– God is only a call away. My anxiety gets the best of me. In a high stress environment, it is easy to fall in despair. But, when I call on God, He helps me manage the day. Whether it’s a meeting I have, working on a case, or a client meeting, God will calm me or make the situation better/manageable. God gave me this job so it’s ok to talk about my job with him.

That’s my game plan. It has helped. It keeps my workday manageable though it is not easy. A job is a part of your life but not the sum of your being unless you make it that way. You can use my list and come up with little, sane moments of joy during your workday and workweek.



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Simple Bliss: Gratitude List

Though I am grateful internally, I wanted to express gratitude externally for this season of life. It is easy to talk about what is going wrong in your life and things you want to fix/change. I’m speaking to myself. Just know, there is always room to give gratitude.

“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”- 1 Thessalonians 5:18

Yes, be grateful in ALL things. So here is my gratitude list:

  1. My mental clarity has evolved in the way I protect my mind, body, and spirit. Therapy has been a game-changer. I see its positive effects in the way I carry myself and deal with situations.
  2. My style is AMAZING! My LEWKS for the spring and summer are beautiful and just my style.
  3. Having a job has given me some financial relief. A steady paycheck is good to have.
  4. My summer hair is GOALS (to me)! Long, brown braids…yup. I be cute!
  5. I am grateful for my support group of family and friends. There are some days where I do not feel my best. They are a text and prayer away from giving me encouragement. I feel loved and it is a great feeling. I am blessed for my tribe and my tribe knows who they are
  6. My new church- truly a great community.

Enough about me. What are you grateful for like right now? It will make you feel good when you list it. It does not have to be big…it can be as simple as waking up to see another day. But, do that and you will see the difference in your mood.



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A Quote to Inspire

I was inspired by this quote. This season has been quite long but God wanted me to learn a lot of lessons. One lesson I have learned is stewardship in the opportunities I am blessed with. I am learning not to grow in my own strength but allow God to use my presence towards my growth. My purpose is to be God’s representation making the most of all my opportunities (Ephesians 5:16). So I live in the best way I can but God is the One who creates and orchestrates the harvest for me. So I just live.



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Like My Mama

In honor of Mother’s Day, I wanted to keep things light. I am a lot like my mom. The older I get, the more her habits become mine. I remember as a kid, I would say, I am going to be a cooler adult than my mommy. How naive I was then…lol. But it’s all good because my mom is a fantastic woman of God and I love her so much. So I wanted to share things I do more of because of my mom’s influence in my life.

  1. I keep a physical planner to that holds all receipts, coupons, and masks just like my mom.
  2. Sometimes I get up on Saturday and clean up everything before noon…ya know don’t waste the day as my mom says.
  3. I make my dog extra clean on wash day the same way my mom bathed me when I was young…so detailed.
  4. After work, I don’t want anyone to bother me cause I just want to sit (Mom was the same when she worked on the hospital floor as an RN).
  5. Thinking ahead with everything just like my mom.
  6. Always smiling like my mom.
  7. Using my mom’s isms, wisdom, and phrases more than I am used to.
  8. In relation to #7, more prone to give an encouraging word to someone and praying with others.
  9. Always thirsty for a sale..”if the sale is not salty enough, I will see you later” as my mom says.
  10. Not understanding all the new trends and my sister having to explain what’s trending to me.

So what habits do you have now because of your mom and/or mother-like influence? Happy Mother’s Day!



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5 Rules I Live By

In this current season, my list of rules transform with time, experiences, and seasons. I believe that the older you get, the more you realize things about yourself. Being 30 for almost a year, my attitude has changed. I am allergic to BS and I learn to abstain from toxicity. So here is a blissful tips I apply in my life.

  1. Be a good citizen– No, this is not about a title or stamp of national citizenship. My mom always told me this. Be a person with integrity, kindness, respect, and humility to others.
  2. Words matter– Especially in the day and age, words can really have an effect on others. I don’t say being politically correct. It is acknowledging what you say and how you say it. Everyone is different so read the room when you speak.
  3. Be a bridge-With the heightened need of change and justice for marginalized communities, my form of advocacy is being a bridge by teaching and giving perspective. You don’t know if someone does not tell you. That does not mean people cannot figure things out but I try to be a resource if need be.
  4. See others the way Christ sees them– I try to love others because we are all created in God’s image. Disrespecting and discriminating against someone is discriminating against God.
  5. Listen and be open– I tell myself this. With different opinions, I cannot talk over people and say “I’m right; you’re wrong.” Nothing gets solved. But I can open my mind to different perspectives. It does not mean I will agree all the time. It is a perspective that is all. I have the power to do what I want to do with being open.
  6. If it does not add value or feed my soul, eliminate it. It’s social media, it’s dating, and everything in-between. Life is too short to deal with negativity and accepting it. Nah fam…not worth my mental health.
  7. Do my best. Life is not perfect but I can do what I can and let it be.



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Back to Basics: Love Yourself

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It’s a simple concept but it is important. You can’t take care of anyone if you can’t take care yourself. You can pour your heart out and give your time, energy, and spirit to work, activities, clubs/organizations, school, church, friends, and family. But who is left empty? You.

I know from experience. I know what it is like spreading yourself thin. I am naturally a people pleaser; I want everyone to be happy. But I overexerted myself. I was depressed and drained putting on a smile for the world and dying on the inside. I would stress myself out to the point where I could not sleep and my overall health was unstable.

I had to take my life back. This is an ongoing issue I struggle with so I am preaching to myself as well as you.

Keep these tips in mind for your self-care:

  1. Learn to say no. Not everything thrown in front of you is a high priority. Yes, there are things that you need to take care immediately. But, know that your self-care is a high priority as well.
  2. Organize your priorities. Whether it is a daily to-do list, a calendar, an app, organize your life. I personally have my calendar app and calendar to get dates and events together. It is important to take time to sit down and write/type stuff out. I forget this but with my schedule being busier, I need to prioritize so I don’t overbook.
  3. Set time for yourself. Whether it is a 30 minute block or a whole day, you need time to recharge. Fill yourself up. You don’t have to go out. You can rest and not look at your phone, read, or just do something relaxing. I have to set “me time” for my own sanity. It’s really nice when you take a moment to breathe. Things I do: I paint (whether it’s a paint class or my own home paint night), I read, I run, I sleep. You need to unwind in some way so make that time.
  4. Don’t feel rushed to make a decision. You know those people who say “I need a decision NOW!” I say, They can wait. No person should ever pressure you to make rash decisions or commit to something so quickly. I am excluding emergency situations but you know where I am getting at?
  5. Be a little selfish. Like I said, you need to make yourself a priority every once and a while. There is nothing wrong with “me time.” The people who need you will still be there after your break.

Remember your body works when you work towards your own well-being. You have to be honest with yourself. Do you take time for yourself? Like I said, it does not need to be a whole day, just a few minutes. Love yourself, take care of yourself. Your body will thank you.



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My Declaration of “Me Time”

I love my space. I have learned to do things on my own. I thought that I had to be around people to be filled. But it actually is the opposite. For many years, I would give myself to the world until no end then just be drained and depressed afterwards. I was more dependent on people than myself. I always thought that being alone meant that I was introverted and a hermit. I just did not want to be alone because I would be with myself and it scared me.

But that was then…

It was when I moved to Florida for law school where my perception changed. I was on my own. I was definitely fearful to explore. Finding a church by myself, shopping by myself, exploring Jacksonville, etc. But it is the uncomfortable moments where we really have to challenge ourselves to grow. So, I took a leap of faith and tried to do activities alone. AND I LOVED IT!

I lived by myself for two years in Jax. I would go painting on my own. I visited churches and eventually found a church home. I would eat out on my own. The list goes on…

I just tried. Yes, it felt uncomfortable at first but once you get out of your head, you settle down. It gets better.

I know alone time can be different for everyone. We all have lives and busyness to do deal with. We all have responsibilities and obligations. BUT it is important to refresh and refill.

My Declaration for Me Time: Everyone deserves a moment, whether its five minutes or a few hours, to be alone to refresh and not think too hard.

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I have fallen victim to the burn out. I pour myself out only to be empty. So find that time. Ways I Unwind: Paint (of course), Window shopping, Nap, Take a walk/run, Reading, Just sit down in my room, etc.

Just something to yourself. Now only you can determine what works for you BUT do it. For sanity, for the people around you, and for your mind, body, and soul.

Have your own “me time”.



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Blissful Summer Survival List

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Summer is HERE! Time to put away sweaters and sweatshirts. Time to revive shorts, bathing suits, tank tops, dresses, rompers, and everything awesome. But you need a survival kit to thrive and still have your skin intact.

My list is actually what I use. It would not be blissful if I did not use it. So, heed my list and apply it to your summer schedule.

Aloe Vera Gel– I burn up internally in the heat. It takes hours for me to cool down. It’s almost like I want a bucket of ice to fall on me all the time. Aloe is a cooling anti-inflammatory plant that moisturizes the skin without being greasy. I used it on my last family vacation and it really did the job. It also helps with sunburn relief. It also provides Vitamin C and E which you and I need to survive the sun’s rays.

Hair Tie/Hat– It’s vital for ladies ( and men with hair) to have it. It gets hot. If you have hair, the heat can make you sweat. A hair tie is your lifeline. Also, if you have hair that cannot fit in a hat, a hair tie is an alternative tool to keep cool. A hat is great too and can be a fashion statement.

Sunglasses– Protect your eyes. I have prescription sunglasses. You don’t want to go blind. The sun can hurt your eyes and may cause you to have headaches. Plus, you can make it a fashion statement to go with your outfit.

Water– Stay hydrated. The worst thing is to be dehydrated. I keep a bottled water handy. Don’t wait till you’re on the brink of dryness. Take sips and drink more than one (speaking to myself).

Sunscreen– Believe it or not. People with more melanin need sunscreen too. I need higher SPF for my skin. So protect your skin at all costs.



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Blissful Lessons from Mom

In honor of Mother’s Day Weekend, I wanted to share my mom’s wise words to me. I am not the person I am today without her strength, love, and guidance. Though she has taught me a lot of things, I wanted to narrow down the list because it would be an encyclopedia with 10 volumes. But I hope you are encouraged by her words in your own life.

  1. Trust God and Yourself
  2. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.
  3. You are NOT in anyone’s spot. God has you wherever you are for a reason.
  4. You are worthy because God says you are.
  5. Do not be ashamed of who you are.
  6. Be patient with yourself
  7. It’s ok if you don’t get it right the first time. You’re human.
  8. Never envy anyone else’s life because you don’t know what they had to do to get what they have.
  9. Enjoy your single life.
  10. God will order your steps. You are alright.



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The Storm’s Blissful Lesson

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You know those rainstorms that are wind, rain, thunder, lightning and everything in between.  You can’t see where you are. Speeding up can lead to uncontrollable hydroplaning. Even familiar routes are difficult to travel to.

Doesn’t that sound like life?

The storms of life can throw us for a loop. A friend once said people are either in a storm, about to enter a storm, or have left a storm.  We all have a storm.

It is easy to succumb to the storm and fall into despair. I have had my fair shares of storms. It feels unbearable.

The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all. He keeps all his bones; not one of them is broken.-Psalm 34:17-20

Though it is easy to throw in the towel, DON’T!

Though it storms, the rain will stop, the clouds will appear, the loud clashing of lightning and thunder will be silenced, and then sunlight.

For every rainstorm, there is sunshine.

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With any storm, God can overcome it. Jesus silenced the winds and the storms at His command (Matthew 8:23-27). Nothing is too hard for God.

What you and I cannot do is control our situations. Sometimes life is out of our reach. Things happen that are unexpected, from left field,  unplanned, and abrupt. And sometimes with as much preparation you do, you still fall short. But God can and is in control. 

With the storm, there is provision, safety, and sanity that God provides. He does not lead you where He will not provide for you. He knows what you can handle even though you think you can’t handle it.

And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.-Philippians 4:19

God will bring you out of the storm into the sunshine. I can’t assure that life will be exactly what you expected but all storms will strengthen you and your testimony.

So hold on even though it’s raining, God will give you the umbrella (i.e. provision) and the direction.

I leave with this: But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.-2 Corinthians 12:9

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Wherever you fall short, God will fill in the gaps.

The storm is temporary.

It will pass.

God will bring you out of whatever tried to end you or break you. 

The sunshine will come.