Monday Motivation

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After 23 years of school, I am in my final semester of law school. My last first day of school EVER! Almost the end of an era and I am terrified. I am heading into classes, then Bar prep, taking the Bar (in February), finding employment, and living life as a 27. I am scared but ready for this life-changing season. I am really doing something brave. So if you are scared, be brave. It’s ok to have fear but don’t let it overtake you. Don’t sit in your fear. Take a leap of faith. Lurch into your success no matter the tribulations. Be brave; you will thank yourself in the future..

Lurch

Blissfully,

Bianca

Nostalgic Bliss

After high school comes college. College was another life changing phase. My grainy journey consisted the following: changed my major a few times, took time off, yet had great memories, and graduated. I would not change my journey for anything.

  1. Your foundation of faith is vital as you navigate freedom you have never experienced. I did not have my parents telling me to go to church, read my Bible, and be set apart. I had the choice to give up on Jesus but my dad always told me “You can never go wrong with serving God.” Something told me not to let Him go. Thankfully, I was involved in Christian groups and was involved in a local church. My campus pastor, Ken Jones & his wife, Janet Jones, played a great role in my spiritual growth.
  2. School> Boys. Sorry, not sorry. I went to school for degree. Granted I did want a boyfriend but marriage was waaayyyy down the road. I knew that I wanted a career and to be someone.
  3. If you don’t find your spouse by graduation, it is  not the end of the world. I remember the constant pressure of people telling me I met my spouse at this event, this spot, this campus, etc. I got annoyed because it was not happening to me. I was not going to graduate with a spouse. But then I realized that I was graduating with a degree..that is so much better than finding a spouse.
  4. Know what you want and don’t apologize to those who don’t apply themselves. There will be the lazy ones who will want to discourage you and bring you down to their level but stand your ground.
  5. Love what you do. 
  6. Ask help before its too late. It’s ok to be a beginner. Asking for help does not mean that you are weak. It just means you are willing to be better.
  7. Enjoy college.  It was so much fun and I would not trade my experience.

Grainy

Blissfully,

Bianca

Monday Motivation

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I can relate to this.  I feel a prickle of fear and inadequacy almost every day. I can stress over all my inadequacies all day but what will that do? Know you that you are one person. You are a human being. Do the best you can. Your best is your best. If anyone has a problem, then tough…you have done with you can.

Prickle

Blissfully,

Bianca

Nostalgia Bliss: High School Edition

With the school year starting, I wanted to reflect on the life-changing seasons of my education. I will start with high school..it was quite an eye-opener. Here are some lessons I wish I knew but am glad that I learned later in life.

  1. High School is temporary, not your final destination. There is life after high school. You can be who you want to be. Trust me, my dorky self thought that I could never surpass the hierarchy of popularity. High School popularity is temporary. Only four years… I am better off making something of myself as an adult. Look at ya girl now.
  2. Don’t envy the “beautiful, popular people,” you don’t know what they had do to get where they are. I wanted to be liked and be like them. Their lives seemed spicy and fun…parties, boyfriends/girlfriends, high school elitism. I just lived the mediocre high school life. But you know what? Looking back, I was just fine. No need to envy the beautiful people because I am better off now.
  3. Have a quality group of friends, not a quantity of acquaintances.
  4. Be yourself. Easier said than done but I just needed to be Bianca rather than pretending to be something that I am not.
  5. Chorus saved my life. It was the one part of high school that made me smile. I looked forward to singing with my classmates. I would relive those memories over again. A special shoutout to Mr. Greg Smith for teaching to me sing, for teaching me about leadership (was section leader sophomore year), for teaching me to be a good human being. You will always hold a special place in my heart. I would not be the person I am today without your dedication.

So that is my reflection of high school. What are the lessons high school you reflect on?

Spicy

Blissfully,

Bianca

Monday Motivation

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It is easy to rush through and be anxious for the next step. But God calls us to walk according to His will. You will not amble around without purpose. God is using every moment and situation for His purpose. He will provide the means and ways. Follow God’s guide. Easier said than done but you can never go wrong.

Amble

Blissfully,

Bianca

Blissful Lesson: Stronger Than You Think

You are stronger than you think.

The valley may seem impossible to climb.

But you have managed to keep climbing.

People may seem in awe but you knew the struggle it took.

Know that God gives unfathomable courage and strength.

With God all things are possible.

The valley you climb gets higher until you reach the top

You are on the top looking at the view.

What seemed impossible is possible.

You grow from soil of impossibility.

You breathe a sight of relief.

You have a heart of thankfulness.

You are stronger than you think.

Soil

Blissfully,

Bianca

Freedom Quotes for Your Life

Happy 4th Friends.  It is important to value country, but it is important to value yourself. So I decided to encourage you all with freedom quotes to empower you and your journey in life.

***Disclaimer: Pinterest is a great place for good quotes. That is where I got mine. I have no rights to these words.***

  1. God is the God of breakthroughs. No matter how long you’ve struggled, it’s all about to change.
  2. Do not give the past the power to define your future.
  3. If you want to fly, you must give up what weights you down.
  4. Nothing can dim the light that shines from within-Maya Angelou
  5. Don’t stop until you are proud.
  6. If their name isn’t God, their opinion doesn’t matter and their approval is not needed.
  7. If it costs you your peace, it’s too expensive.
  8. Keep your eyes on God because He is the one who can give you the change that you need.
  9. Don’t base your decisions on the advice of those who don’t have to deal with the results.
  10. The purpose of life is to live it, to taste to the utmost, t reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.-Eleanor Roosevelt.
  11. You are never too old to set another goal or to dream another dream-C.S. Lewis
  12. Do more than exist.
  13. When you lose all excuses, you’ll find results

Live life with purpose and independence.  Sail away from the negativity and nay-sayers. These are powerful words but they can be more powerful when you apply it.

Sail

Blissfully,

Bianca

Blissful Reasons Why I Could Never Be The Black Bachelorette

636307302514747894-146144-0177So I was intrigued. The first African-American Bachelorette made her debut on primetime television. I have never watched the Bachelor/Bachelorette series but I made an exception. While turned on by the beautiful male specimen, I also thought about Rachel, the Bachelorette. I could never do what she has decided to do: To catapult into love by picking a guy from a group of strangers in a matter of months.

Here are some reasons why I could never be the Black Bachelorette:

  1. I have a group of men surrounding me and wanting my attention. I love men. I am an extrovert. But 31 men surrounding me would make me claustrophobic.
  2. I am too awkward for TV. I have to express my quirky, awkward self  to a guy on national television. NO WAY!
  3. I do not like being alone with a guy. Weird, I know but let me explain. Things like  “Hey, can I steal you away?” “Let’s go out and talk.” or a guy pulling me or taking my hand and making me go with him. I do not function like that. I need witnesses around me and public moments before I can trust being alone with a guy.
  4. My heart is one organ so I can’t split it to every guy on the show. Too many men to keep up with.  I do not know how to juggle men. Some girls consider that a talent. I do not know how to serial date so yeah…
  5. I am traditional. You have to work for the benefits of me. The physical aspects will not be instant; I need to be comfortable with you and really have a connection with you. Kissing comes after several dates, not the first date. Meeting my family and important people in my life is a big step. I date for marriage not for a fling. A ring means access to privacy in the bedroom. I don’t give myself easily to men.
  6. I don’t function well with heartbreak. No one does but I am dedicated and trusting. I am very sensitive. I think of Proverbs 4:23-Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. So I don’t give my heart to anyone.

So, you will not see me on the Bachelor or Bachelorette..sorry ya’ll. I will fall in love the old-fashion way.  I am smart (future lawyer), kind, loyal, creative, loveable Christ-IMG_1064follower. Call me crazy but I guard my feelings and heart. Good luck to Rachel and her path to love. People fall in love in different ways but traditional is the way I roll. Maybe there is someone out there for me or not. Either way, I will get a dog. But loving myself, God, and the people who love me for me is my path of love.

Catapult

Blissfully,

Bianca

5 Blissful Ingredients to Enjoy Your Elixir of Life

  1. Rely on Jesus to direct your path.
  2. Be yourself. 
  3. Stay humble.
  4. Eliminate things/people who steal your joy..
  5. Persevere.

A definition of elixir is a preparation supposedly able to prolong life indefinitely. My blissful ingredients are a part of the greater elixir called Life. I try to live by these ingredients. I would encourage you live by these ingredients. It makes a difference in your life. You have one life so make it worth while.

Elixir

Blissfully,

Bianca

5 Blissful Ordinary Parental Lessons that Shaped My Extraordinary Life

I don’t know about you but I thought my parents were SO uncool in my pre-teen and teen years. My parents ran a Haitian household in America. My parents are God-fearing Christians who love their children. My parents had rules and standards that I thought was too much. Now, as an adult, I see how blessed I am to have to have their love, discipline, and guidance.

So here are some of the many ordinary lessons I live by  thanks to mom and dad.

  1. You can never go wrong with following Christ. As I grow in my faith, He has not failed me once. The world’s opinion tends to fade away the older I get. Not everyone has your best interests at heart. Some people actually want you to fail. But God’s intentions is to give you a life abundant in Him. Following Him is the best decision I made.
  2. Be a good citizen. Now I was always confused when my mom said “Be a good citizen” every time I left the house. What my mom meant was to have good character everywhere you go. Have integrity, be kind, be trustworthy, be respectful.  Believe it or not, I got a Citizenship Award in school and it clicked. Actions speak louder than words.
  3. Never envy another person’s life because you do not know what they did to attain that lifestyle. As a kid growing up, my mom always said “I send you to school to learn, not to have a fashion show.” My parents did provide clothes, food, and supplies to live on. I did not have or wear the latest trends. My parents wanted me to show off my mind. And showing my mind has paid off because I am almost done with law school. Besides, some of the beautiful people that I went to high school with are not all well off. The uncool kid is going places, thanks mom and dad.
  4. Give. I saw my parents give their time and resources to help people. They never forget where they came from. My parents did not have the life I had but that did not stop them from giving to others. My Heavenly Father and earthly parents have given so much to me. So I will give back as they give to me.
  5. Be You. My parents always say that “I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I am smart, beautiful and kind.” Not everyone in the world will like me. But my parents say to be me in spite of it. So I will be Blissfully Me.

So I will encourage you with my parents’ ordinary lessons of life. They have truly made the difference in my life. Take these ordinary steps and experience the extraordinary changes that come with it.

Ordinary

Blissfully,

Bianca