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I Thank My God For Every Circumstance to Be Content

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I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.  I can do all this through him who gives me strength.-Philippians 4:11-13

Not every circumstance is perfect. There are good days and bad days but each day God gives you is a blessing.

I have been saying for a while, I am in the in-between season of life from law school to real world. Well now, I am in the season of adjustment and adapting. I am still working towards being a licensed attorney by taking the Bar in another jurisdiction. After failing the Bar for a second time, I really had to take a step back and reevaluate this plan I imagined. My plan was not working. But the problem was, it was not God’s plan up until this point.

The big question I struggled with was: Am I content where I am? The truth was: I wasn’t. I wanted my come-up and it was this elaborate plan to get my independence on and live it up! I thought it was better for me to live away from comfort permanently.

But I realized that God gave me the opportunity to be content and independent from my family when I was in law school. I learned a lot about myself in Florida being a young, independent law student in that season. I was content with my life there and God allowed that time for me.

Now, after April, I had to learn how to get that content spirit back because I just wanted that life again. But as I started to look around, I saw that I had provisions to be content about that I did not have in Florida.: First off, I had my support system with me instead of six hours away. Second off, I had my basic necessities: food, clothing, shelter for FREE (can I get an amen?). Third, I had my church home and pastor who is one of my mentors close by. Fourth, I still had the same talents and gifts I had before but I just needed to tap into it where I was.

Sometimes, you have to really look inside yourself and pray for God to reveal the joys you forgot you had. I wrestled with that this past summer but now I am in a better place looking to the future. I am still grinding and hustling but still growing in contentment. I have been more active in finding the joy in the present. I take each day at a time.

I learn contentment every day. Every second, every moment. Whether I am serving at my church, serving my family, or serving my community, I learn the peace of contentment that surpasses all understanding. It keeps me balanced and sane.

God is holding my moments: today, tomorrow, and forever. I just have to learn to be present and thankful in every season.

I encourage you to find true contentment in Jesus Christ. He is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. You can never go wrong with His love and power. He has never steered me wrong though I steer myself wrong. His grace is sufficient in everything. His peace can be your peace.

Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.-1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

It is daily to exercise your contentment muscle but you can do it. Speak of your blessings (even as simple as waking up), talk to God (He is listening), and be thankful. It will not fail you and God will not fail. Therefore, I thank my God for every circumstance to be content.

Blissfully,

Bianca

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I Thank My God For Rejection

WAIT WHAT, BIANCA!?!

I know what you are thinking why would I enjoy rejection. Well I am glad you asked, Bliss Fam.

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.- 2 Corinthians 12:9

Don’t get me wrong. Rejections hurts. But that is what grace is for. Though I do not see grace physically, I do feel it through the Holy Spirit working from the inside out.

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Whether it is people, opportunities, or other things, grace covers those weaknesses and shortcomings. And grace creates strength, protection, and resilience in the situation.

Perfect example, I had someone in my life lie and hide from me for months. In other words, I was ghosted. There was no explanation, just silence for several months. Then out of the blue, I get a text saying that he wants to talk. Well, I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Of course, my sister was my emotional support when he called. He dropped major bombshells that shocked me but not to my core. (On the other hand, my sister was pissed and annoyed for me). When it was my turn to talk, I was candid and honest, handling the situation with grace and poise. I called him a coward and expressed how his lies hurt me but did not damage me. No really, I had moved on without him. Yes, I was rejected but it did not hurt because God’s grace covered the temporary rejection I experienced from someone I cared about.

Everyone has experienced that hurt of rejection in one way or another. But it is how you react that makes the difference with grace.

Now with that situation with Bianca ten years ago, it would have been different in the pitiful way. You see, it took me a long time to figure out how to handle rejection. I was quite the people pleaser who took criticism and rejection TO THE CORE. My head would spin and go crazy over someone’s else rejection of me because I wanted to be loved by everyone…like Oprah popularity love. God knew that desire but He really broke me and humbled me by revealing what and how the rejection would work out in my favor for His purpose.

Rejection hurts but it also humbles you. It humbles and grows you in ways you never knew. You may not see it right then and there but God will reveal it. There is a purpose for rejection.

 I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.-Romans 8:18

Granted, I am still growing and learning grace in the mist of rejection. But it is manageable through Christ because His power covers it all.

For that, I thank my God for rejection.

Blissfully,

Bianca

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I Thank My God For…

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I will give thanks to you, Lord, with all my heart;
    I will tell of all your wonderful deeds.-Psalm 9:1

It is November, the season of thankfulness and pondering on the blessings of life. Now, every day should be a day to give thanks, but I know things are emphasized more during this season.

There is enough going on in the world to gripe and complain about. International crises, famine, poverty, injustice, political regimes, racism, and everything in between. It is enough to make your head spin and ask God, “Where are you in all this?”

But the truth is: He is in the midst and still working. Though things may be bad, there are good things God is doing to and through us.

Whether it is a new job, new baby, financial provision, new relationship, or something just as simple as waking up with breath in your body, God is doing good…no…GREAT THINGS in each of us.

It is important to speak on the blessings that God grants us. It does something to you and me. And it is biblical. All throughout Scripture, we see followers of the faith speak on God’s greatness because He truly sustains humanity and our world. And so will I.

I will speak on the goodness of Jesus Christ because He truly blesses me, sustains me, and keeps me going.

Join me on this journey of thankfulness this month for “I Thank My God For Series.”

Blissfully,

Bianca

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fear.

fear is a four letter word of disaster

BUT…

it can conquered.

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fear is not easy to fight

BUT..

it can be done.

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fear may speak

BUT…

your voice is LOUDER.

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fear is a choice

BUT…

CONQUERING is a choice.

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fear is a four letter word

BUT…

it can be conquered.

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Blissfully,

Bianca

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Conquering Fear

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Fear is a liar of the psyche.

Fear is a fallacy to eyes.

Fear is collusion of the pain and delusion of inadequacy.

but it does not have to be the outcome.

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Fear does not define your life.

You have the ability to change the course.

Fear does not win unless you put your foot down.

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Conquer your fear.

Scare your insecurities.

Destroy negative expectations.

Realize your value.

Blissfully,

Bianca

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Conquering the Test

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Don’t worry, no pop test here. Trust and believe, I would not blog to give you readers an exam. But life surely gives us tests. Lots of tests. You have either survived a test, are about to enter a test, or will enter a test down the road. It is inevitable but manageable in God’s eyes.

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds,  because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.  If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.  But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.  That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord.  Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do. Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.-James 1:1-8,12

In my favorite book of the Bible, James, he is writing a letter to the scattered tribes of believers. They are being persecuted for their faith and it seems helpless. The tests are actively crumbling and discouraging these early Christians. But, James chooses to encourage and strengthen them with how the testing is not for pain but for growth.

Trouble does not last forever but you cannot fight with your own strength. God’s strength and power covers the multitudes of trials, pains, hurts, and disappointments. Perseverance comes from daily wisdom and walking with the Lord.

I wish I could say you get instant answers and be fine but it’s not. It takes the faith where you cannot see but believe. Faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.-Hebrews 11:1. The reality is that faith is relying on something greater than the physical. In James, it says to believe and not doubt because you will be susceptible to the worldly chaos of life.

Jesus was tested but he followed God’s wisdom in His Word. It is about staying in Scripture and knowing the truth of your struggle is NOT in vain but for a great purpose.

I am in a season of the in-between. I have experienced two steps forward and ten steps back in repetition…constantly. Even in the setbacks, I always have to remind myself that the struggle is greater than feeling defeat and hopelessness. I do believe my miracle and blessings will come TENFOLD. God has not brought me this far to leave me. I have survived and endured through so much. And the Enemy has not taken me out. I am still the Daughter of A King. And in the great words of Jacob, I will not let go until you bless me. (Genesis 32:26) The Enemy is working hard because something greater is on the horizon. I have seen God use my tests for someone else down the line. I have been able to pour into others. I would not have had the ability had I not gone through what I went through.

Conquering the test of life is ALWAYS beyond the visible. God is in the inner-working. He knows the grand scheme of your struggle. It is to prune and to shape your character. I will say again, nothing is in vain.

Do not give up. Keep going. You will pass the test and conquer.

Blissfully,

Bianca

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Back To Basics: Don’t Give Up!

Sometimes situations seem hopeless. It feels like no matter what you try to do, things just don’t work out.

Disappointment, pain, anxiety, depression, jealousy, and helplessness.

You try. You cast your net to opportunity hoping for something but you come up short.

I know that feeling all too well. The easy thing is to give up. But God says “No.” Every valley, trial, and setback is TEMPORARY. It won’t last forever. God says, “To everything, there is a season.”

There is a time to learn and grow. You just need to keep trying. Try each day. Cast your net. If you get nothing, keep trying.

EXAMPLE YOU ASK? Why of course…

I have tried and tried to find a job in the legal field for a while. I prayed and applied. Pray and applied. I have lost count at how many job applications I sent. After send came the same news, “Thank you for applying but we decided to move on with another candidate.” Rejection after rejection. It was enough to crush me. But I kept applying no matter how bad I felt. My mom would even say “Keep casting.”

I say keep casting as reference from Peter, the fisherman in the Bible. Here is the passage: Just as day was breaking, Jesus stood on the shore; yet the disciples did not know that it was Jesus.  Jesus said to them, “Children, do you have any fish?” They answered him, “No.”  He said to them, “Cast the net on the right side of the boat, and you will find some.” So they cast it, and now they were not able to haul it in, because of the quantity of fish. So Simon Peter went aboard and hauled the net ashore, full of large fish, 153 of them. And although there were so many, the net was not torn.-John 21:4-6,11

You see, I was not alone. Peter, as a fisherman, was struggling with opportunity but Jesus would not let him give up. The result was TEN-FOLD. I mean he got enough to have a fish fry in the village.

But back to my story, I casted one more application at the end of July. And God delivered TEN-FOLD. By August, I had a job. YES! A JOB! One that God designed for this season. I still have to pinch myself that God did this.

God is looking for trust and obedience. It does not mean that you will understand everything. I went in with a little faith but God says if you have the faith of a mustard seed, that a tree could be uprooted into the sea (Luke 17:5-6). Even in our small faith, God plants perseverance and endurance in us but we have to be willing to go our own selfish desire and pride. We have to cast our nets by faith.

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Don’t give up. Embrace the season. It is a lesson. You will get where you need to be in God’s timing. Keep at it. Keep casting.

Blissfully,

Bianca

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Back to Basics: Work At It

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Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters,  since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.-Colossians 3:23-24

No matter how mundane you may feel your life is, you have a purpose. From the littlest thing to the biggest task/project/chore you can think of, God wants you to WORK for him. Yes, taking out the trash for the glory of God. Who knew!?!

I was talking with my mom about my mundane life and she rebuked what I said. Like WHOA, mom. But she was right; I was complaining about my mundane schedule and life. But my mom explained how the little things matter to God. God sees the devotion, dedication, blood, sweat, and tears and honors that. He is saying, “I’m proud of my child. Keep going!”

So whatever you are working at, towards, or through, go for it. Do it for Jesus. God sees everything from the big to little. He honors hard-work, obedience, and unyielding trust in Him. Your work will pay off. Remember that fire starts as a spark. You need to give the work your all. Nothing happens overnight but if you work at it, God will work it out for you.

Blissfully,

Bianca

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Back to Basics: Be Better, Not Bitter

Life has a way of twisting and turning your focus, direction, and perspective on life. I was convicted in a sermon message about my own bitterness in my life. The pastor was talking from the LOVE Chapter (e.g. 1 Corinthians 13:4-5) about how “love keeps no record of wrongs.” He used that passage to highlight about how love does not have bitterness.

Bitterness is defined as exhibiting intense animosity or marked by cynicism and rancor.

The pastor talked about how bitterness can transform and alter your outcome. Bitterness turns into complaining, complaining turns into doubt, and doubt turns into a lack of focus on your future/destiny.

As I sat in my chair listening, I really thought to myself, “Am I bitter?” The truth is I was and did not realize it. I was bitter. I was complaining. I was doubting too. As I have written before, I was living at home, second failed attempt at the Bar, and just stuck. I was trying to function but still had this dark bitterness that made me feel helpless, like the world was laughing at me. I was a failure and a fool.

After church, I confessed to mom that I was bitter about everything going on. My mom and sister agreed that I would sulk in that bitterness and carry it with me. TALK ABOUT A WAKEUP CALL.

I really let it go too far.

But you know what? The pastor stated that God can take that bitterness and turn it into something sweet. He will give us His sweet presence, His peace. But the thing is: I had to keep the past in the past. It happened but I cannot dwell and live there. I need to move forward. Yes, life does not go as planned but God has something sweeter ahead.

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I truly wrestled with that. I had to look into my heart and let go of what happened to me. Yes, I failed the Bar twice. Yes, life did not go as planned. Yes, I am living at home, trying to find work, and helping around more. BUT, God does not discount what I have been through. Actually, He is using it for something sweeter.

The Bible says “Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good! Blessed is the man who takes refuge in him!”- Psalm 34:8

God is good all the time. The Enemy is working overtime but God works ALL the time.

God is working it out but you and I cannot live in the bitterness of the past. Easier said than done but it’s true. You cannot move forward with bitterness. Yes, life can derail you but you cannot give into it. You can acknowledge your past but DON’T LIVE IN IT.

It takes God’s daily strength and power to wake me up in the morning. I can’t do it by my own power. Ask God for that power to move forward. Ask every day, every minute, every hour of the day. Bitterness eats you up alive. You can’t let it steal your joy.

Be better, not bitter.

Blissfully,

Bianca

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The “Name It And Claim It” Declaration

I am constantly working out this declaration in my own life because I am my own worst critic.

My mother always tells me to speak my blessings and goals. God hears them. It is important to declare it and believe that God will work it out.

Well lately, my confidence has been less than average… about 60%. I put on a brave face for world. I want people to feel good about themselves even if I’m not. With my post-grad situation and a season being longer than expected, I just feel stuck and have at times doubted my purpose.

For instance, my parents say “You’re my favorite lawyer.” I respond, “But I’m not a licensed lawyer. I have to pass the Bar first.” Parents retort, “But you are still my lawyer. You have to say it first.” Wise words.

It has frustrated me for about two years because it has been a defense mechanism to stop them from getting my hopes up. But my parents, being wonderful, always bring my negativity with hope and positivity. But the problem is me. When I say I’m not an attorney, it’s like a way of attacking myself saying “I failed. I fell short. I am not who I set out to be.” I backtrack, overanalyze, degrade, and discount my failures thus far.

Recently, my mom called me out on my negativity. She always reminds of how far I have truly come. I graduated law school. I am almost there….just 5% more left. She reminds me how to NOT let the Enemy have the final say but SPEAK GOD’S BLESSING as the final say. Declare it.

So I am learning to claim this dream as a reality and try not to downplay what I could be. God has delivered and authorized my blessings; I just need to believe that greater blessings are in store.

NAME IT AND CLAIM IT.

Easier said than done. Sometimes it’s hard because reality can really kick you down. People’s opinions and advice, statistics, the media, etc. can really make one doubt.

But I declare to myself to NAME IT AND CLAIM IT. It speaks positivity, truth, and self-confidence when you say I will do (fill in the blank) and I will make it.

So for me, I am telling myself daily: I am an attorney. I will make it. God has already done it and I receive it.

So what do you need to declare? I can’t tell you, only you know that. I challenge you to NAME AND CLAIM your victory.

We will make it, God-willing.

Blissfully,

Bianca