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Posted in Blissful Tips of Life

A Quote to Inspire

I was inspired by this quote. This season has been quite long but God wanted me to learn a lot of lessons. One lesson I have learned is stewardship in the opportunities I am blessed with. I am learning not to grow in my own strength but allow God to use my presence towards my growth. My purpose is to be God’s representation making the most of all my opportunities (Ephesians 5:16). So I live in the best way I can but God is the One who creates and orchestrates the harvest for me. So I just live.

Blissfully,

Bianca

Posted in Blissful Tips of Life

Like My Mama

In honor of Mother’s Day, I wanted to keep things light. I am a lot like my mom. The older I get, the more her habits become mine. I remember as a kid, I would say, I am going to be a cooler adult than my mommy. How naive I was then…lol. But it’s all good because my mom is a fantastic woman of God and I love her so much. So I wanted to share things I do more of because of my mom’s influence in my life.

  1. I keep a physical planner to that holds all receipts, coupons, and masks just like my mom.
  2. Sometimes I get up on Saturday and clean up everything before noon…ya know don’t waste the day as my mom says.
  3. I make my dog extra clean on wash day the same way my mom bathed me when I was young…so detailed.
  4. After work, I don’t want anyone to bother me cause I just want to sit (Mom was the same when she worked on the hospital floor as an RN).
  5. Thinking ahead with everything just like my mom.
  6. Always smiling like my mom.
  7. Using my mom’s isms, wisdom, and phrases more than I am used to.
  8. In relation to #7, more prone to give an encouraging word to someone and praying with others.
  9. Always thirsty for a sale..”if the sale is not salty enough, I will see you later” as my mom says.
  10. Not understanding all the new trends and my sister having to explain what’s trending to me.

So what habits do you have now because of your mom and/or mother-like influence? Happy Mother’s Day!

Blissfully,

Bianca

Posted in Blissful Favorites

Blissful Favorite: Old Church Basement-Elevation Worship & Maverick City Music

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Have you ever listened to an album that speaks to your soul. It is an amazing feeling isn’t it…almost like God knew you would need to hear something so beautiful yet so real.

God knows how to align my love for music with His Word. Elevation Worship’s collaboration with Maverick City Worship in Old Church Basement is GROUNDBREAKING! I dare you to listen to each song with an open heart and mind. I hear scripture in each song and a reminder of God’s truth.

My favorite songs are Jireh, Talking to Jesus, Names, and Million Little Miracles. The album is on repeat because May is a big crossroads month for me with possible opportunities that could be on the horizon. I get quite anxious at the thought of what is to come, but these songs give me comfort on a spiritual and mental level.

If you did not know already, this is BLISSFULLY APPROVED. Tell me what you think.

Blissfully,

Bianca

Posted in Life as Bianca, My Lenses on Life

Sharing My Testimony

This was a big step. It was the summer of 2020 after the protests and outcries for justice was everywhere. I wanted to do my part. I sat in my stuff and said to myself, “I can’t hide anymore. I have to be uncomfortable and make people uncomfortable.” But it’s in the most uncomfortable moments where we grow. It was the self-therapy I needed to not hide the repressive thoughts of unworthiness in who I was. It was a release in putting myself out there as fully me. I shared my testimony of things and emotions I felt in my racial identity as a first generation American of Haitian immigrants and Christian.

Remember this is my experience and my story to tell. I own every part of the experiences that have made me who I am today. I grew from that moment and continue to grow. I am a work in progress and learning that my voice matters. So take this with a grain of salt and listen to my words.

Blissfully,

Bianca

Posted in Blissful Favorites

Blissful Favorite: PJ Morton’s Album, Gospel According to PJ

Talk about music that speaks to your soul. If you did not know, I am a big PJ Morton fan. His music catalog is mostly R&B but for this new, Grammy-winning album and artist, Morton goes back to his gospel roots. This album came out during the pandemic and it is on repeat. The music is just powerful and meaningful like any other song he created. My favorite tracks are #8, All In His Plan and #10, God Can/Let Go. All speak to me in my current season of life. All the features are amazing. Listen and tell me what you think. But as for me, this is Blissfully Approved!

Blissfully,

Bianca

Posted in A Breath of Fresh Air, Believe with Bianca

Believe With Bianca: Preach Truth & Be Still

We can all be our worst critic…I am preaching to the choir on this. A deep realization of growth is learning to preach truth to myself and be still. For me, it is staying in God’s Word, the real truth that speaks life.

But, I’m not gonna lie…sometimes I read Scripture and there is no spark or burning bush revelation. Yes, the Bible is God-breathed and active (2 Timothy 3:16). But God’s instruction may cause different responses. Yes, I get conviction and truth but lately, I have been still in His truth and put a verse(s) in my Christian tool box.

He says, “Be still, and know that I am God;-Psalm 46:10a

I have been learning to take in scripture and really marinate on a specific truth in my life. I just need to be still. My mind just races constantly about the future. Will life fall into place with my career, with friendships, with a romantic relationship, marriage, children, etc? I almost give myself headaches and anxiety just thinking about an unknown future.

But I am learning to be still. Easier said than done. I remind myself not to worry for what will it add to my life?(Matthew 6:27). Absolutely nothing. The Enemy is trying me but I feel greater is coming…that’s why he is working so hard.

A passage that causes me to be still and preach to myself is: being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.-Philippians 1:6

I am choosing to be still and preach currently: God completes what He starts. So God is not done with me and the things that worry me will be completed in Jesus’ name and timing.

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What do you need to be still and preach truth to yourself about?

Blissfully,

Bianca

Posted in Life as Bianca

My Own Advocacy

So in the past year, human rights and civil rights violations came at its peak. People were stuck in their homes and things were shut down. Almost every day, an unarmed black person was killed unjustly. Hate crimes and discrimination was rampant. There was a need for justice and advocacy.

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In the mist of that time, my thought was “How do I advocate for justice in my own world?” I can’t hide from it. Though I can’t save the whole world, I can be effective in my community.

I’m not going to lie: I did not go to protests then and I was not donating to any organizations. I was an unemployed, post-graduate struggling mentally, physically, and emotionally.

For most of my life, I have struggled with racial identity. It carried with the statements of not being black enough, “acting white,” and selling out all because of the environments I interacted in. I wanted to help my community but I did not want to hurt my white friends. I always hid parts of myself to my white friends out of fear of losing them. So that was where I was the summer of 2020, at a crossroads.

But as I researched and listened to different sources, a revelation came: Not everyone’s advocacy for justice looks the same. You have find out your own personal way to advocate for other groups.

What a relief.

I did not have to do what everyone else is doing. I can be my own person and advocate in my own way. So what was that? Well, I started sharing my story and speaking out about my experiences with discrimination. I had a diverse following so why not give perspective. Why not be transparent of the experiences that shaped me.

For the most part, people listened and empathized with me. I choose who to give more knowledge to if someone personally reached out privately. I did not allow certain narratives to distort the work I wanted to do in educating others. There were some who did not want to understand and wanted to refute everything I said. I even had people tell me I was race-baiting or making everything about race. For that response, I blocked them.

In therapy, my therapist told me how my purpose is being a bridge. My experiences are unique but no less black nor less white. I was just Bianca. I have always interacted with different people in my life and that is nothing to be ashamed of. So why not use that skill to bring people together. To find common ground and open eyes, hearts, and minds.

If you are struggling in how to be an ally and advocate for others, find what works for you. You know yourself well to know what you can handle. Everyone does things different and that is just fine. Do what works for you.

Sources I look to for news and ways to advocate is the NAACP, AND Campaign, ACLU, and Human Rights Watch. I am looking to expand my horizons so tell what you use as sources. It is a start. But do the research for you will get a worldview to personally and effectively serve your community.

Lastly, You and I can do our best. A win for me is when a person tells me, “Thank you for sharing. I will consider that in my own life. What you said made me think in another way I never thought.” Change starts with the heart. My form of advocacy is to tell my experiences and listen to others to cultivate a heart change that creates stronger allies. Remember we are stronger together and every little act towards justice can make a bigger change.

Blissfully,

Bianca

Posted in My Lenses on Life

I Exhaled: The Verdict Aftermath

To exhale is an amazing feeling. An intense need to release is human. Our bodies want to feel real. The painful trauma of watching George Floyd’s need for breath haunts me. It took the breathe out of me. Thinking of “I. Can’t. Breathe.”

Being me, a black female of Haitian descent, there are times where I must remind myself to breathe. Though I could tell you the scientific and anatomical methods we breathe, I’m not. The emotional toll of injustice in the country is hard to live through especially when it is your own. Every day feels like a new tragedy, another brother or sister murdered in cold blood and there is no justice for them nor their family. It’s like you almost have to talk yourself out of getting justice because the system tends to diminish our struggle. You can’t breathe in the systems and institutions that make it difficult to breathe.

It makes me numb and hurts to my core. I think of all the people I love who are black. I have a black brother and a black father. It is hard to see them walk out the door. You pray they make it home safely and when they come home, I exhale.

Today, I was shaking when I came home and saw the television on the Derek Chauvin Trial. My body felt a whiplash of anxiety. Nothing can prepare you for a verdict. No matter how many times I tried to calm down, my heart and soul was scared. Chest hurt, pit in my stomach. It’s the stuff that makes you still and unable to function.

But Justice came in that moment. Guilty, Guilty, Guilty. Justice came for the Floyd family.

Then I exhaled.

It’s a weird feeling. You are relieved for justice, sad George is not alive, frustrated at the timeline for justice, unsure if there will be more change, anxious at the sentencing stage, worried if this is the last time justice will be served, empowered that real change is coming, and EVERYTHING IN BETWEEN!

But I will exhale today for George cause he could not. While I am here, I will breathe another breath.

Inhale and Exhale.

Blissfully,

Bianca

Posted in Blissful Favorites, Uncategorized

Blissful Favorite TedTalk: Luuvie Ajay Jones

It’s hard to be uncomfortable but Mrs. Luuvie Ajay Jones gives a TedTalk of the Ages! I heard of Ms. Jones through a podcast, Gettin Grown. She is a best-selling author, writer, and all around Queen. This TedTalk is inspiring because my season is SOOO uncomfortable but I have grown so much. Enjoy!

Blissfully,

Bianca

Posted in Poems of Bliss

The Power of Roots

Dirt so dry, dark, and dirty

Dirt so muddy and opaque from the harsh storms

And yet roots start to form

Storms provide the struggle but the lessons from rain come to the roots

Then the roots extend and extend till it is stronger

The deeper the roots, the firmer the plant stands.

Storms do not go away, they will always come

But roots, draw from its water and continue to grow and expand

Blissfully,

Bianca