The Skies Are Changing

On the horizon of a new beginning, the atmospheric skies are changing .

The blueprint you anticipated has flipped.

What you desired is not what is in store.

The strategy has changed but the goal is unchanged.

It may seem like failure but as you look up, the sun shines brightly.

The skies are changing but God is still saying “I am still rooting for you.”

You look down to earth, look inside yourself, and move forward.

Heaven is working on your behalf.




Living Life

Have you ever had moments where you are just mentally and physically worn out? Like you are just tired and numb to everything? You go through the motions but you are still numb?

And suddenly there is a HONK! A loud sound to shake your entire being.

You wake up! Your body surges with life and action. You are motivated!

A honk can be the wake-up call you need to keep going and keep fighting.

So friends, keep going and keep fighting.




Life As Singing Bianca

One of the most important songs that can ever be sung is the National Anthem. It is quite an honor and privilege to sing those words. Yours truly will be singing this anthem for their law school graduation. It is an exciting feeling but also a nervous feeling.

Many friends were surprised that I could sing. Even a friend was like “ohh look at Beyonce who’s singing the Anthem, I am looking forward to this.” OR “you are gonna sang that song”

Well ya’ll I don’t have the Beyonce, Whitney Houston, Lady Gaga power in my voice. I have always struggled with my voice because it does not have the “Black Soul with the crazy riffs.” It is clear, pure, and sweet tone (no riffs). But over time, I have learned there are many ways to sing a song. My voice is unique and God gave it to me to share. I was chosen to sing my interpretation of the National Anthem and that is what I will do.




Affirm and Believe

It is easy to say what is going wrong and get worried.  It is easy to to say “I wish this and that.” It is easy to see and envy another’s “wonderful life.” I say this because my mind swirls just like this. So I have to tell myself, STOP. You are only destroying your progress and growth. Don’t grow faint and lost in what you don’t have. You  know what you and I need to do? You and I need to be thankful for the good. There is potential in and around us.

Affirm what you believe is true.

Yes, affirm how far you have come. Affirm the good in your life. Affirm your progress. Affirm that fact that you are alive and breathing on your own. The key term is AFFIRM.




Believe In Your Well-Being


Fluff is NOT needed except for desserts and pillows.

I have learned it is important to be selfish especially if it has to do with your well-being. I know I am being redundant but it is vital to take care of your mind, body, and spirit. 

When you have your standards, keep them. Don’t let it waiver.




Believe In Yourself

Your identity was created and formed by the Creator of the Universe.  Let no one tell you otherwise.  You have purpose. Yes, you evolve with life experiences. You grow for the better, not for worse. A different season may require a different version of you but never lose your essence.

Personally, when I moved to Jacksonville and starting a new chapter in law school, I promised myself to not be swept away. I wanted to still be Bianca..but a better version. I did not want my faith in God to waiver,  lose my morals and values, and lose my personality. God fearfully and wonderfully made me genuine and set apart. I am still Bianca but I am a better version not a different version.

So I encourage you to change, grow, and thrive as a better version of you. You are wanted and you are strategically placed on the Earth for a reason. Never lose who you are.




A Word from Mama B!

Can Mama B be real with you?

There was once a time where peoples’ opinions mattered to me. I wrote a plural possessive because it was true. I allowed people to rule my life. My well-being was a cacophony of opinions that did not matter in the end. I was afraid of being hated by people but at what cost to my own sanity? I was lost because I did not use my voice.

REAL TALK: There will be people in your life, in your circle who wish for your demise. There are people who are toxic and only bring negativity.

My advice: Make sure to hear YOUR voice. Eliminate the leeches that suck the life out of you. Shake the dust off your feet. Seek advice from the people who give your tough love and have character that you gravitate towards.

I will admit: Your friend list may be smaller but that is not a bad thing. Have a quality of friends than a cacophony quantity of instability.  Also, make sure to hear your own voice too




Blissful Words of Truth

Me Too” may seem like two words.

But to many people, it was facing and conquering fear.

Whether it was a day or years ago, the pain and scar exists.

It was probably risky and scary to admit.

But you are not alone.

I say:  “Me Too.”

BUT, you and I are stronger than what tried to break us.

Our voice matter.

Never stop telling your story and speaking your truth.

Fear will not have the final word.




The Fear Is Real

My last set of midterms are over. whew!

Less than 60 days to graduation. oh boy!

Moving to a new city in less than 65 days. oh gosh!

Finding employment with medical benefits, vacation days, paid time off. YIKES!

The Bar is coming. DOUBLE YIKES!

You know that feeling when life was slow and steady and you want life to go faster and it actually gets faster. Life is changing in a matter of months. It is a lot to take in. I do not like change but this change is LIFE-CHANGING.  The season of the single law school student will be no more after December. I will be a Bar prep student/ Bar Exam Taker from December to February. Then what? I am in the general population. I will be waiting for results. But what’s next? The past 8 years of my life have been “planned” with school. But now, the fear is real. The fear of the unknown.

I am truly having to live by faith and not by sight. My security nets are falling away. I am starting fresh in a new season. I am so terrified. BUT, I am always reminded of wise words from my dad: You can never go wrong with Jesus. He has not brought you this far to leave or forsake you.

Like I said, I am scared but these wise words are what I hold on to. For now, I am enjoying the last few months of this long three-year season. But the best is yet to come.



Empowerment Over Fear with Bianca

Fear is a strong word. Fear is crippling word. It will always exists because we are human. BUT fear does not have to define you as long as you don’t let it

I LOVE quotes if you don’t already know. Here are several quotes I love the combat fear.

“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the assessment that something else is more important than fear.” ― Franklin D. Roosevelt

“Do one thing every day that scares you.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

“Let your faith be bigger than your fear.”

“Life will only change when you become more committed to your dreams than you are to your comfort zone.”

“Those who dare to fail miserably can achieve greatly.”-John F Kennedy

“Courage doesn’t mean you don’t get afraid. Courage means you don’t let fear stop you.”

Let these words on encouragement inspire you. Yes, you can live in your comfort zone for the rest of your days but what fun is that? I am not saying you need to bunge-jump or skydive off a cliff. I am saying to challenge yourself in your work, school, family, and relationships. Is it your attitude you need to change? Is it taking that tough class or starting a new career? Is it leaving a toxic relationship or friendship? What is it? Don’t be tame. Look inside yourself.

Don’t let fear cripple you into your comfort zone. You will live a life with regret and not intent.