A Transformation of Fresh Air

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.-Isaiah 43:18-19

God makes change possible. You may be in a wilderness or wasteland of uncertainty but God provides. It may seem impossible but with God all things are possible. When God closes a season, it is not because you can’t handle it. It is because God is bringing something better and glorious in your life or He is trying to teach you something. It is all for His glory and your testimony. He does new things in due time. Be blessed, friends.

Glorious

Blissfully,

Bianca

My Changing Perspective

Your change means making hard decisions. I have found in my life that cutting people off or distancing myself from certain people support my change. I am really extroverted so I do not like losing people (“friends”). The older I get, more I want a quality of friends rather than a quantity of “so-called friends.” In good times and dark times, a person would want that circle of consistency and love. Right? Right.

Now I find myself guarding myself more. I have introverted tendencies now because I do not trust everyone. It is not a paranoid thing but an awareness of people and their intentions.

My first year of law school was hard because I allowed people to have their way with my thoughts, feelings and perspective. I made not have acted out  the way they did but my emotions affected me. I did not feel worthy or I had to work for people’s “favor”, I would be torn apart while those “friends” kept living.

When I decided to change, remove/distance myself, and guard myself, some people noticed. Some people did not even reach out to me whether by social media or by phone (granted they knew I was alive on social media but did not message me). Some just did not care. That is how you know who is with you. A friend loves at all times. An acquaintance just exists. I realized that I lived my life with acquaintances.

Now my change means discerning people’s intention.  Call it picky and selfish but sometimes you need to be selfish. Be flavorful with your life but also with your choice of friends.

Be sure to surround yourself with true friends. Let your friends reflect the internal change you create.

Flavorful

Blissfully,

Bianca

Motivation through the Rough Times

There are times where change can result from thorny situations. Yes, it hurts. Yes, it scars.  A scar does not have to a stain of shame but a source of strength.  Don’t let the thorns let you bleed out and forget that something better is coming. The joyful moments do not come without thorns and difficulty.

Thorny

Blissfully,

Bianca

Believe and Obey

 

Disobey the fears that cripples.

Disobey the doubts that define your thoughts.

Disobey the ones who limit your greatness.

Disobey the societal norm, stereotypes, and expectations.

Obey God, Obey your soul, Obey…

Disobey

Blissfully,

Bianca

Changes Through Lenses

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There are unexpected changes that alter the world. I wish I could say I understand all changes but I do not.

Being 11 on September 11, 2001 was a scary place. Chaos. Fear. Tragedy. These are words I did not understand. I learned sympathy for the lives lost. I learned that life is fleeting. I learned bad things happen.

I also learned that God is not blind to pain and suffering. I do not know why this happened but God knows why. God is still in control. Even though it has been 16 years, it is hard.

I wanted to leave you with the hope of Jesus Christ.

The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.-Psalm 34:18

I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In theworld you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”-John 16:33

 I lift up my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come? My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth.-Psalm 121:1-2

Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.-James 1:1-2

Sympathy

Blissfully,

Bianca

A Blissful Word from Mama B!

It is not enough to say “I want to change XYZ. I need to get out.”

You have to do something…like actually act. If you keep complaining, then you will be like a dog chasing its tail. As a friend, I would remember giving the same advice over and over again (run myself into the ground) to friends who knew what they had to do. I also had to realize I can want change for someone else but if they do not take the steps, it is not my fault.

Don’t blame and complain if you refuse to change. 

It’s ok to be selfish and take care of yourself.  You are the only person living YOUR LIFE. No one has to live with the consequences but YOU.

Yes, change is hard. I am speaking to myself on this too. But is being in the same position worth it? Is that person really worth it? Is that situation worth the pain and hurt you feel?

Let the change crescendo and catapult into a better version of life.

Change it or live in it. That’s the choice you have to make.

Crescendo

Blissfully,

Bianca

A Blissful Tip

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The people you start with may not be the people you end with. Some people are meant to be in a season for a reason. It happens. Personally, a new season meant letting go of the people and things that do not fit or pose a threat to my personal change. It is hard but it is needed. Educate yourself of what you need to change. Your future self will thank you. What are the things you need to remove in your new season?

Educate

Blissfully,

Bianca

Monday Motivation

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Thrive each day of your life. Be a better version of you. It does not need to be grand. Make an intentional, daily decision to not stay the same. Transform! Be magnetic and attract the good and repel the bad. Yesterday is the past. Today is the present.  What are you waiting for?

Magnetic

Blissfully,

Bianca

Nostalgic Bliss: Law School Edition

My last semester of law school is HERE!! Here are my reflections of law school.

  1. Law school is a new environment not matter where you go so ADAPT to your surroundings.
  2. Not everyone who smiles at you is your buddy. It may sound crazy or mean but here me out. Some are after sabotage and manipulation to get the better grade. There are quality people  and mentors jpg_law_justice_003you will encounter who will bring out the best parts in you. I have met the best people who had my best interests at heart and who rooted for me (You know who you are). It is a small handful of people but it’s enough for me. Guard yourself.
  3. Do what works for you. Everyone is different. What works for you is FOR YOU!
  4. Tears are the steps to your growth. I have cried on a few occasions but I dusted myself off and kept going. My visceral fear and failure could not be permanent or I would come to my own ruin. The resilience makes you stronger so keep going.
  5. Breathe. It will all be worth it. The blood, sweat, tears, and lack of sleep will pay off when I walk across that stage to receive my diploma and when I get sworn in as a licensed attorney.

Visceral

Blissfully,

Bianca